Saturday, August 16, 2008

Drama in the Unlikeliest of Places

For 2+ years I have been a part of a very close group of ladies. We have been through thick and thin with each other. "Holding hands" through some very tough and scary times and laughing when things are good. You would never guess that not one of us have ever even met each other face to face. Not that we haven't wanted to, but we live (collectively) all over the world. We live in different time zones but always have seemed to be on the same page. We have rushed to tell each other our good news as well as bad news. We knew we could lean on each other as well as laugh together. In all, it's been an awesome experience to have such a close-knit group going through a lot of the same things at the same times (since our babies were all born in or around February of 2007). Premature labor,bedrest,post-partum issues, sickness,sleeplessness, teething, reflux and sibling rivalry. We've all been there. I always felt like it was the Cheers theme song-- Where Everybody knows your name....and they're always glad you came.

When there was too much drama at our original "home" we left and built a new home. The new home was so nice. No more worries about lurkers getting into our business-the "peeping toms" of the internet world. No more drama about the way you chose to parent your child. It was all good. Then, one innocent post and it all went down-hill. One mom simply said how frustrated she was over being "dismissed" by other people when they found out "all" she was was a stay at home mom. This had nothing to do with whether it's harder or easier to work or stay at home. This had nothing to do with which makes you a better parent or person. But all of a sudden that's what it turned into. And now, there are locked doors and people staying away. Not just people, but friends. I wonder if it will ever be the same again.

I'm sad to think that something so nice could be over-or at least forever changed. No one is even really right or wrong... We are all moms doing our best to bring up these little people God has given us in the hopes that they will be happy, healthy individuals.

5 comments:

mainehappymama said...

I couldn't agree more Cara. Its just sad what has happened.

Jules said...

I see it from a different point of view. Fights happen among friends. I believe it is a sign of how emotionally close we have become. It's not fun, and it hurts, but it's what happens in honest, real relationships. We'll be fine. We have to be! :)

Tamara said...

This will test how true the friendships are....I am sad that instead of just venting about a frustration it turned into a debate. Never was intended for that...

mainehappymama said...

Miss you Cara!

Kendra plus 2 said...

Well at least I know now what the issue was LOL. I missed it all.
On one hand I'm glad, on the other it's horrible to be completely lost.
We miss you, pop in when you get a chance!

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